In the post, “Guard Your Heart,” I ended saying, “We all have something we can do, in order to better protect our hearts and guard our love.” I chose to find a way to do just that. I have been practicing releasing and forgiving with intention. I noticed one of the main reasons why I “react” to certain situations is because I have not clearly communicated and worked through my feelings. Below, are a few ways I chose to try as I am journeying through this part of the healing process.
*Please Take Note: I lend these only as suggestions for self-awareness in healing. These tips are not to take the place of professional therapy.
Release the Guilt
-Releasing the guilt is forgiving ourselves. It allows us to let go of the pain we are feeling and prevents us from believing that we are unworthy of forgiveness.
“I forgive myself for ________.”
Release the Anger Releasing the anger we may have for someone or something can be very difficult. Something that has helped me in this is realizing that we all have battles we are facing, whether we know what they are or not. Just as I am working through past hurts and obstacles, the other person also has experiences they have and are still working through. Holding on to the anger creates a burden on your heart. A burden you should not carry. Releasing the anger ultimately grants you freedom from the pain.
“I forgive (said person or thing that has hurt you) for (what effect the person or thing did).”
Reflect Forgiveness is major part of the healing process. There is no measured time of how long it will take. As you are moving through, reflect on these questions: What emotions do I feel from past hurts? What led me to make the choices I made, good choices and lessons? Why am I affected by these events that have happened in my past? What healthy boundaries must I create to protect my heart? How do I clearly communicate these boundaries to others?
I’d love to hear your suggestions of self-forgiveness and creating boundaries. Drop a comment below.